Quick Tips on Serving Families Affected by Disability in Church
Originally Published on July 8, 2023, on the Champions4Parents Blog
3 Tips for what TO do
Yes #1: Think about who is already there.
Build a foundation of serving by loving the ones who are already in your church. Determine their needs and put into place the things that will work to help them feel part of the church family. Think of the person with disabilities and their needs. Consider how best to love siblings. Empower parents with a support group and respite.
Yes #2: Share the gospel.
In the midst of putting helpful things in place, remember the reasons for ministry. The first and foremost focus needs to be sharing the gospel. Sometimes we get so caught up in the mechanics of ministry that we forget the essentials. We focus on the practicals: things like do we have enough volunteers?, how are we going to handle sensory sensitivities?, what is the agenda of the morning?, will there be snacks and what can they safely eat?, how do we get them from this room to that room safely? It is very important to focus on those things. They are essential. We just want to make sure that sharing the gospel, mentoring and working toward making disciples, loving God and loving people, relationship building doesn’t get lost. Our work is to give others hope in this world as we look forward to our eternal hope in Christ!
Yes #3: Be team minded and community minded.
Consider everyone’s perspective. Let the families know that you care and that they are seen and heard. As a volunteer – be a friend to those you serve and a support to other volunteers. There’s no competition. Encourage parents and caregivers to show gratitude and appreciation for those serving their loved one. The volunteers do not have to be there — they are choosing to be there. Remember that the needs of all – as a group need – to be considered while working to also consider individual needs. Be okay with not getting your way. Always look at the bigger picture.
3 Tips for what NOT to do
No #1: Don’t assume.
We all are influenced by our past experiences and can jump to conclusions that may not be accurate. Don’t assume that everyone with Down Syndrome is the same. Don’t assume that everyone with Autism is the same. Every person with or without a disability is a unique individual. Take time to get to know each individual by building a relationship with them, by getting tips from their parents/caregivers, by consulting with others (volunteers and staff) who have worked with them. We like to say if you are going to assume – then assume a greater level of ability rather than disability and guide them to next level growth.
No #2: Don’t reinvent the wheel.
There are so many others who have been where you are. Many knowledgeable people have figured some things out. You can consult with them. We stand ready at Champions4Parents to support you in your efforts. Email us today. Two more excellent resources to help are Key Ministry and Wonderful Works Ministry.
No #3: Don’t do ministry alone.
Raise up a community to come alongside you as you serve. Personally invite others to enter into ministry with you according to gifts and abilities that you see in them. Be passionate, enthusiastic, and welcoming. Just share your heart and why you love serving this community.
Blessings,
Tom and Julie Meekins
Tom and Julie Meekins are the proud parents of four children. Their daughter Amy was born with many complications. The Meekins family has beautifully allowed God to use their story. In 2010, Tom and Julie Meekins began coaching and mentoring parents and reminding people that “it is never too late - there is always hope.”
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